The passing of Valentine’s Day, cupid has come and gone; now it’s the next day, week, or the month after. For some the seed of affection, admiration, and fondness has been planted, and yet, for others it may be disappointment, anger, resentment that has been sowed. Some turn to the published articles of quick fixes for hope and others share the power of prayer and ask you to believe in what you cannot see.
What may work for some, may not work for others. I have been told that on many occasions. At this time, love is not in the cards for me, that too, I have been told. It will come when it is time, be patient, and again I have heard that comment. I have read famous quotes, seen inspirational works of blogs, articles and books on fixing the heart. I will admit, it’s a desire or wish that each person find comfort, joy and/or confirmation when it comes to matters of the heart.
I have witnessed too many times the seed of anger from a broken heart; grow into an emotional tornado of hatred, attacking both the guilty and the innocent. If no one has seen, just sit on the back row while a session of divorce court is being heard. Step out into the hallway and see the harden faces of the extended family. Most times, there are children involved, and that seed of anger and hatred is planted into the soft tissue of innocence of the heart.
Then I have witnessed as the clock ticks, time passes, there are moves, remarriage, and changes to ignore, but that poison of hatred can linger. I’ve been told by some; I can forgive, but will not forget. I have heard others dwell on the desire to live, to see what that other person will get what’s coming. Oh, how our society wants to see revenge, payment, justification.
I step back and realize I no longer know the person I offered assistance, suggested items to read of quick fixes, or told I would keep in my prayers. I have watched and observed, and it has scared me at times to see others become, I mean act and behave like that they protested against…they became what they hated. That poison had taken control, they are now under the influence, and most don’t see it. I have looked into the reflection of myself and realized I don’t like what I have allowed to influence me under that power of hatred.
I have experienced those elements of life that can plant the seed of both, love or hate, and I still from experience have no answers. From some, I have heard to walk away, but I think it’s more of focusing on who I want to be versus who I am. The invitation is offered to join me on that quest of a heart filled with love, happiness, and joy, but as I move forward on that “bucket list” of fulfillment, some decline the invitation.
If there is any truth of famous quotes or biblical messages, then it’s the reality of accepting yourself, knowing yourself, and bettering yourself to fight the poison of hatred. I have been told you cannot change others, but you can change yourself. From experience, that’s one lesson I agree with. If I believe in the power of LOVE, then I welcome the fact, the heart wants what the heart wants and I don’t believe it wants the seeds of resentment, anguish, misery, and especially hatred. The one message I truly believe that is conveyed from any religion of choice is LOVE.